What is Family

In my last post I shared my views about Life. For all of us until we are among ones who are on higher path in Life, no matter how much we achieve or how faar we go if we don't have our loved ones, it seems meaningless. We all need atleast one person in life on whom we can relay on. This dependancy first starts from our family.

So, what is Family? Were families always like this or with time we have lost true meaning of family. What I see around is families are getting shorter but distance between heart has increased. Care has been named responsibility and respect as manners. But neither responsibility have an end nor we behave how we were supposed to. All that is left is expectations which when not fullfiled leads to frustration among each other.

Thousand years back India was a land where our lives were divided into four segment, called Ashrama. This consist of Student; learning phase, Householder; raising family, Retired; hand over responsibilities to next generation & sharing their wisdom and last Renuciate; giving up all worldly desires.

Today we represent an ill-mannered person as an ancient human. But we are wrong. Our ancestors had wisdom, they used to behave as per experience and age. Therefore, there was care from elders and respect from younger people no matter who or where they were. But today, students have become an expectation for parents and robot themselves. They have knowledge but no real experience and wisdom. Household are no more filled with love and sacrifice, it's all about having best for themselves. Retirement is not forwarding knowledge but taking control and getting back what they did. And last, no one talk about renuciate, it has become worst phase of life where instead of leaving materialistic world people cring because of their ill health and ill treatment by younger generation forgetting that change is law of nature and they should let it go.

You know mantra of life is reminding ourselves that what if today is last day of my life and fulfilling your duty towards life. But we behave as we are immortal and will stay together. All this false belief is what leads to expectations and frustration among people. Let a child be free and let him grow in his own way. It's parents who wanted to have children. Parents should never make children a means to fulfill their dreams and neither should make children dependent on them. Parents should fulfill their basic duty and let them free nomatter how they are. Children never listen, they observe. So, parents can't teach children until they practice what they preach. If a child is raised in a loving, caring and sharing environment automatically, he will grow into a wonderful human being who will act how he is supposed to. And that is all matters. Then, there will be beautiful families which we all want but in reality unfortunately we going away from it.

Life is Going Inward

Everything that we experience in this life is only because of “LIFE”. Do you often think about Life and its purpose or does it come to your mind only when everything seems impossible? Or are you the lucky ones who is never bothered to think about it.

So, what is Life? A small word describing our journey from first breath to last. Have you ever thought it this way?

My dear friends, what I believe is; Life is every breath we breathe and what happens to us and around is in between our first and last breath. We can ignore it just as we ignore our breath until we are in ICU or we can count every breath and discover magic. Of course, we don’t know all this from our birth and neither many of us who make every breath count life know it’s value. But, since ages all enlightened people born on this planet has talked about importance of breath in our life. With realization of our breath will come clarity of thoughts and with clarity of thought we can achieve wonders. Again, achievement should not be measured in terms of success and wealth. We all know this, but we are so much involved in what is happening around us that we go with flow and forget our basic self. Life is not inward-out its’s Outward-in. It’s happening inside us and we should not let any external thing to influence our life.

 Therefore, forget what is happening around you, forget what has happened to you and start focusing on your present; at your breath you are breathing. Because this will make you aware about yourself and you will start feeling that your life is filled with joy and happiness. You will realize your life is complete. You will wonder to see how everything happening around make sense and were bound to happen. You will not get stresses, frustrated on things like before. All you must start doing is what you already might know. You must ask yourself is; what if today is the last day of my life. You will know that life is the biggest gift we all have received. And how great it will be if you know what you have done and what you are doing is all you wanted. And if things go wrong, then it means universe is planning for something better. We all have heard this proverb from childhood; “Man proposes but God disposes.” It will bring a sense of content and that will be my friends a state of ultimate bliss. This bliss is one form of salvation which we all can achieve. In short, we can live complete and purposeful life which we all want but going in wrong direction.

Did you realize when you first read the word Life, your mind must have filled with chaos and sufferings. All that we encounter daily, and you must have thought I will be discussing same. But no. Life is not suffering. It is simple and beautiful. It’s we who have made it complicated and unsolved mystery. As some wise man have said “Problem are inevitable, but suffering is optional”. So, who is going to decide that you will be suffering or not. It’s you and only You. So, let’s enter a new conscious phase of life and explore wonders of this wonderful life that God has given to us. Let’s together discover purpose of this Life as it is the highest form of life on earth and God should not have created us without purpose. So, investigate yourself, take a deep breath and ask yourself, “What is my purpose on this planet”?